Saturday, July 25, 2009

Maybe I'd Rather Stay Single

I like to boggle the Mormon girls by saying that in my family there's no pressure to get married, and as a matter of fact, it's a little looked down on that you would do such a thing. It's truth; Dusie confirmed that she managed to absorb the same message.

I always thought I'd end up alone. I can't decide whether it's self-fulfilling prophecy or just my personality. I broke up with the ex when I realized that I didn't care so much about kids or not being married, but what I wanted was someone who loved and adored me, and liked to spend time with me and he...didn't.

I had 2 dates in Cleveland in 3 1/2 years. However, compared to the girls in "Love By Committee", I'm a healthy relationship marvel. On the one hand, I am truly convinced there's a lack of single men in their late 20's or 30's there. I would joke that I had to wait for the first wave of divorce to get a boyfriend. But here's the thing--I don't mind being single. There's a lot of advantages to the whole thing. And I find the "Board of Love" to be awfully depressing and grasping in their strategies to find love.

Check out the commentary on Jezebel too.

1 comment:

drwende said...

See, you've summed up the contradiction I was babbling about last fall, where the "goal" of getting the wedding ring, followed by the teething rings, is treated as incompatible with real and lasting love.

Surely if you want to be loved and adored, the logical outcome is to end up with someone who loves and adores you (and vice-versa).